“You can’t change the fruit if you don’t change the root.” – Joseph Prince
Every wonder why it’s so hard to change a habit? Do you get frustrated when changes you make don’t seem to stick? Have you ever thought “if so-and-so would change, everything would be fine”?
The answer to these questions is simple: people tend to focus on the symptoms rather than the cause of the problem. “You can’t change the fruit if you don’t change the root.” If you don’t like the fruit your life – your relationships, your job, your friends, your health, your academic life – check your roots.
Here are three immutable principles you need to get your head around:
- People’s behavior toward us is a reflection of our behavior toward them
- Our behavior is the manifestation of our inward beliefs
- Behavior is the tangible expression of our thoughts
Our thoughts become our words. Our words, become our actions. Our actions become our habits. Our habits become our destiny. If you want to alter this progression, you have to change your thoughts – not the thoughts of others. Counting on others to change in the hope that you will experience happiness is like standing if front of an empty fireplace expecting warmth. It doesn’t work that way.
The way we change our thoughts is by speaking. The mind cannot simultaneously hold one thought while speaking another. Furthermore, when you speak your subconscious mind is programmed. If you want to change your behavior, you need to change your programming. The Bible tells us to “call those things that are not as though they are.”
Here are five things you can do to change the world around you:
- Decide to change – this is the hardest part
- Believe you can change – this is about your heart condition
- Confess – use your words to create the future you want
- Act – walk out your confession
- Forgive yourself – accept that you are going to blow it now and then
- Rinse and repeat
I am not much for “touchy-feely” movies, but when you have a daughter you are inevitably going to watch The Princess Diaries. In the movie, Hector Elizondo voices a powerful truth first spoken by Eleanor Roosevelt:
“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”
The source your joy and happiness lies within. If you are frustrated with the fruit your life is bearing, take a look your roots for that is where you will find the answer.
Love you guys